Sharena, 34, San Diego, Calif.
We're moms and our time is extremely limited. Just pick up the phone!
Visitation schedules, work, and life in general have a way of making single Moms, like myself, unavailable. Because our time is so limited and focused on our kids, I suggest skipping the emails and using the phone to maximize your time and get to know someone a little better.
Gloria, 50, Rochester, DC
There's no need to rush - take things slow.
After your divorce or the end of a relationship, don't jump right into another serious relationship especially out of the fear of being alone, or to assuage your feelings of grief, sadness and loneliness. It's born out of need, not love. When the time is right, you'll know.
Cathy, 46, Dubuque
Online communities are a great means of support and recreation.
As a single mom, you can never have too much support. I find support through great friends, both male and female. We share advice and words of encouragement. I benefit greatly by both being a friend and having friends. I also surf the web for advice on an issue that I'm facing and I'm a fan of Loveawake Blog. It's amazing what information that you can find on the Internet if you take a few minutes to look.
Dena, 50, Houston, TX.
Introduce your date when the time is right.
Be very careful while you're out in the dating arena to keep potential suitors at a distance from the children until you are certain that the person is going to be a "regular" in your life. It may take a bit of creative planning and maneuvering, but it is worthwhile in the end. Children are innocent and trusting, and too many suitors in and out of their lives can create confusion and disillusionment.
Nikki, 30, Miami, FL
Don't feel guilty about taking personal time to date.
I don't have the same kind of time to get to know someone as I did when I was single and without my daughter. I usually only have a couple hours on the weekends for dating so I try and make every second count. Try and relax during your date. I sometimes feel guilty if I'm not at home doing the much needed chores, but it's important to give yourself time to get to know that person.
Tina, 35, Tampa, Fla.
Follow your 'mother's intuition' (not only your heart, but also your head).
Since we have more at stake with young children, it's best to listen to your intuition as you're getting to know someone. Pay close attention to the little things like tone, inflection, opinions and reactions to different topics of conversation. These can all be very telling signs, so we need to be sure we don't miss them.